In the ordinary Layman’s understanding, Selfishness is being concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself, seeking or concentrating on one’s own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others.
Bahati Hilda however, defines being Deliberately Selfish as having the self-respect and confidence to live life on your own terms, prioritizing your mental, emotional, physical, and financial destiny by engaging in consciously unhurried life perceptions, decisions, choices reactions and actions in everyday living.
Deeply optimistic and personal although a little worrying, the study offers an upbeat call for everyone to take full responsibility of whatever is happening in their personal life.
Deliberately Selfish takes us through a journey of self-discovery where we learn the causes of our mental poverties, drawing more attention to what we owe to ourselves.
Bahati pinpoints several ways one can work to satisfy self without hurting the populace surrounding them.
“If you decide to take the road less travelled, and feel stuck, stop and examine which way is true north for you. You can finally look out for number one; Be a little greedy with your own needs and you will make the world around you better in the process.”
Divided into five important parts, the book first introduces the reader to the aspects which when appreciated will guide them to developing self-love. It calls on the reader to be grateful for whatever they have achieved, invest more and keep pursuing their dream.
By appreciating and loving oneself, Bahati argues that you will be free from working to please others, providing a golden opportunity to develop self.
“Give yourself permission to say no without feeling guilty. As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them,” she argues.
Bahati goes offensive on ‘blame game’ which she says never stops if you let it take root. She advises that despite the condition, one needs to take a step and leave the game behind.
“The first thing you have to do is be very clear; it’s nobody else’s fault but yours. You have to make a decision that your life is your own business and get on with it. The world owes you nothing.”
The author goes on to rally readers to face their problems head on. She argues that “Good things come to those who work hard and struggle to pursue the goals and dreams they believe in.”
A unique blend of challenging prose, academic treatise and self-help, Deliberately Selfish is sanguine, open and honest in its approach and will enable the reader to tap into the often ignored sense that they are destined for – and capable of – something far greater.
It will guide the reader to become the ultimate person they are destined to be while challenging them to become a better version of themselves every day that passes.
About the Author:
Born and raised in Uganda, Bahati Hilda is a relationship coach, counselor, author, public speaker and an experienced psychologist based in Kampala.
She is the founder of LIFE FIX, a private practice counseling and life coaching firm in Kampala, Uganda.
Bahati has done school outreaches, women workshops and conferences, corporate trainings, and motivational workshops. Her treatment approach is to provide support and practical feedback to help clients address current life challenges and long standing conflicts.
She also does live counseling on television and radio.
Deliberately Selfish by Bahati Hilda (published Life Fix (U) Ltd November 2016) is already available to purchase and signed copies of the book will be sold on Friday December 9th at Garden City Roof top during the Red Sofa Sessions.